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‘I have injected myself every day for the past six years’: Wife of millionaire Max Delmege, 73, reveals her heartbreaking struggle to have a baby – after spending over $100k on IVF
- For six excruciating years, Sam Delmege tried desperately to have a baby
- The wife of Max Delmege, 73, has offered a poignant account of her infertility
- Their attempt to start a family have led to three miscarriages and $100k on IVF
For the past six excruciating years, Sam Delmege tried desperately to have a baby.
The 34-year-old wife of septuagenarian millionaire Max Delmege, 73, has offered a poignant account of her brutal battle with infertility.
The couple, who met eight years ago, started trying to conceive in 2013.
But their six-year attempt to start a family have led to three devastating miscarriages and spending more than $100,000 on IVF treatments.
Here, the Sydney nurse spoke candidly about their turbulent struggles of having a baby against the ever-decreasing odds.
For the past six excruciating years, Sam Delmege (pictured) tried desperately to have a baby
The 34-year-old wife of septuagenarian millionaire Max Delmege, 73, has offered a poignant account of her brutal battle with infertility
‘Every single day thinking about a baby, thinking about starting a family, thinking about my future, thinking about me as a Mother. Wanting, wishing, hoping, praying, practically begging to get pregnant,’ Mrs Delmege wrote on her blog.
‘When we finally sought help in 2015 I was told ‘you’ll get pregnant more then likely first go’. I was so excited that finally it could all be over. Finally my dream.
‘That cycle was an absolute failure.’
But when she finally fell pregnant for the first time in April last year, she lost her unborn child at just six weeks.
Three months later, the pair – who married in 2015 – were delighted to discover they were expecting twins but Mrs Delmege tragically suffered a double miscarriage.
‘My whole life was shattered that year,’ she said.
The pair – who married in 2015 – were delighted to discover they were expecting twins but Mrs Delmege tragically suffered a double miscarriage
Despite her multiple failed IVF cycles, Mrs Delmege has been able to find the strength to overcome the heartbreak.
‘I’m not sure how I did it in 2017 but I managed to get through it,’ she said.
‘I was dealing with some heavy losses, so much hatred towards myself, high anxiety levels, stress and all the while getting up, going to work, carrying on with life as if nothing was happening.
‘I hate looking in the mirror seeing a woman that can’t carry a child, a woman that has put on 30kg in three years, a woman whose body keeps rejecting embryos, a woman who was deeply hurting.
‘I am still deeply hurting. Each and every single day. It’s the bane of my existence.
‘Most days people wouldn’t know what’s going on in my head. I smile, I laugh and I pretend I am okay. Most days I think I disguise well my true feelings.
‘I am still trying to keep that spark in there. Samantha, the happy go lucky girl, with minimal cares in the world, always wanting to have fun and a joke. That girl.
‘I often see glimmers of her but then she disappears when I am quickly reminded of my day to day torture. My life that currently still is.’
Despite her multiple failed IVF cycles, Mrs Delmege has been able to find the strength to overcome the heartbreak
As the couple tried desperately to conceive a baby over the years, Mrs Delmege said it was hard to watch those around her fall pregnant so easily.
‘While you’re happy for people, deep down there is a pain that aches, yearns and is desperately wishing it was you sharing that news, feeling those feelings, having morning sickness, watching a belly grow, feeling a baby kick, watching them move and wave at scans. But, each month it isn’t you,’ she said.
She explained the reason behind why she dreams of becoming a mother.
‘You know the feeling I hear of unconditional love, the feelings of watching a human you created grow and experience life’s experiences, the feelings of having them grow inside you, then the feelings of birth. The daily photos, the milestones…. All those things? That’s why I’m doing this,’ Mrs Delmege said.
‘That’s why every day of every month for the last six years I have put myself through injections… steroids, the weight gain, the money loss, the heart ache, the miscarriages, the hope, loss of sleep and lack of self confidence. All to have those exact same feelings that you do, looking at your child.’
Determine to fall pregnant, the 34-year-old nurse from Sydney said she’s not giving up just yet
As the couple tried desperately to conceive a baby over the years, Mrs Delmege said it was hard to watch those around her fall pregnant so easily
‘Will I ever experience these same feelings? I am not sure. Wouldn’t it be great to have a magic ball telling us what our future holds. While I know right now my immediate future is unsure I hope my long term one has blessings with a baby.’
Determine to fall pregnant, Mrs Delmege said she’s not giving up just yet.
‘If out of all of this I can praise myself for something it’s for the determination of never giving up. Living with that glimmer of hope that my time is coming,’ she said.
‘Despite all my losses, 18 embryos, I still feel that glimmer. I still see a future with children. I never knew how much determination and resilience I had. No one knows how much pressure they can handle until handling it is your only option.
‘Never underestimate the power of wanting something so desperately. What we will put ourselves through to achieve that dream.
‘Until it’s my time I’ll keep going. I’ll keep trying. I’ll keep praying. I’ll keep begging that maybe next month. I will keep smiling, joking around and basically breathing until I can become one of you. A mother.’
Sam Delmege and millionaire Max Delmege on her $100,000 struggle to have a baby through IVF